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Friday, February 10, 2017

Flirting With the Truth

“A friend is someone who knows all about you and still loves you.”- Elbert Hubbard 

Valentines day is almost upon us, so I’d like to take the opportunity to mention a few  things about dating and image.

The first thing to remember is that within the first 7 seconds of meeting you for the first time we humans make a number of assumptions- completely subconsciously, by the way. We decide how smart, trustworthy, and well educated you are. We decide what sort of socio-economic background you have, what your sexual orientation is, and how much money you make. These are just a few of the presumptions we make. As I’m fond of pointing out, it may be the case that none of the assumptions based solely on your appearance, are true. 

This goes to show how important it is to pay attention to what your image says about you- obviously this is true for the dating scene as well. But I think the issue of authenticity might be even more important when it comes to dating. 

If you’re not rich yet dress as if you are, then you’re not being authentic. If your image is that of someone who’s a sensitive artist yet you never engage in any creative activity, then that’s misleading. If you present yourself as the stable, monogamous type but you date lots of people at once, that’s a lie. I’m not suggesting there’s anything wrong with being any of those things- rich or poor, creative or not, monogamous or promiscuous; the problem is when you present yourself as something that you’re not, especially when it comes to dating. When someone invests time and emotion in a person who turns out later to be other than what they originally presented themselves as, it can lead to some pretty bitter disappointment, disillusionment, even distrust or anger. When we let someone in emotionally it becomes more important to be able to trust what we think we’re investing that precious intimacy in. 

If you make a point to be conscious of making sure that what your image conveys is consistent with who you are, and you know what colors and design lines work best for you, you’re bound to present your best, most authentic self, and in the best light possible. Not only will you look your best, but you’ll get bonus points for honesty. Always good for a budding romance.

Call me to set up an appointment to help you find your best colors and design lines- Happy Dressing!