“Great minds discuss ideas. Average minds discuss events. Small minds discuss people.” ~Eleanor Roosevelt
Let's say you get to a place where you're ready to make some changes in your appearance; you do a little homework to find out where you want to go with this, get out there and find what you want and start doing your new 'thang.' People start to notice. First it's a little double-take here and there in the hallway. Then the occasional 'well don't YOU look nice today!' Even a wolf whistle.
Then there's that certain someone, or if you're really lucky, more than one special someones that just looks at you a little curiously the first few times. Then after you've been test driving your new look for a while this person might hazard a snide remark. This remark might take you unaware, leaving you without a quick comeback. Have to remember this person has had some time to think up this nasty little dig, so best to just smile politely and keep going.
We all know this person. They're as common as mold, flu and Mondays, unfortunately. I don't know why they seemingly feel so threatened when someone improves themselves, but they do, and they apparently feel it's necessary to do their best to drag you down to their level. Often they'll start making these snide remarks on a regular basis.
I don't delude myself into thinking I'm capable of changing these people, nor would I most likely be willing to invest the time if I could. That's not my job, or my point here.
Of course your real friends will be very happy for you, and will care most of all that you're happy- you may have even gotten them involved in the transformation process you went through, so they're invested in the outcome. But these other people-? You'll never get anything but a snide remark. You'll never please them.
Their input is valuable, nonetheless. Think of it as a kind of guage- as a general rule, the nastier the remark, the better you look on a given day. The better you look, the more it bothers them. :-) See? If they're going to make the remark, you might as well find a way to make it work for you.
Think of it this way- if someone keeps giving you crap, why not make fertilizer?