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Friday, January 17, 2014

Secret Crushes


“Good resolutions are like babies crying in church. They should be carried out immediately.”~Charles M. Sheldon

So it's a new year- how about one, small new goal?

You know that thing you could NEVER bring yourself to wear? But that you've secretly loved all your life? That style that's just too, too different for you- maybe a color that's too bold- or jewelry that others would think was too ostentatious for you…

Well, remember that life isn't a dress rehearsal, and truth is you don't have much to lose. How about this year you make it a goal to go 'there.' Pick that thing you've secretly loved and make it work for you. Maybe you'll feel silly and awkward at first, but that's a small price to pay to have something you've always wanted, right? A little effort and change, and you have a little bit more happiness for the rest of your life.

Maybe it's a style that you love but seems to you to require a certain level of confidence you've never had with clothes. Or maybe you think the design lines wouldn't work on your figure. If there's just no way to make the design work on you, then look at what it is about the style that you like- what does it convey that appeals to you? How can you 'get' that in design lines that work for you? Be willing to experiment. And then experiment some more.

Maybe it's a color that you secretly lust after. Maybe you're known for your conservative style but secretly love vivid, brilliant purple. Yet you have nothing that's vivid, brilliant purple because…whatever. It doesn't matter why. What matters is that life is too short to deny yourself such a simple avenue of self expression. So, after you've found the version of the beloved color that's in your color family- cool or warm- and in your proper intensity- bright or muted- you can find a way to wear it. If you feel it's not an appropriate color to wear to work, maybe wear purple 'underthings.' And maybe you wear nothing but that perfect purple all weekend, and every time you go out in the evening. Again, whatever. However you can work it, and however it makes you happy.

Same thing with the jewelry- start slow, don't invest a lot until you know if you really do like it- and like it on you, and if all goes well, change your attitude or self image enough so that you can make it work. 

The point is to expand your horizons- in terms of your wardrobe- for the new year. It may take time to figure out how to make it work, and that's fine. If you have to do lots of window shopping first, make pinterest boards and so on, that's good. It's all fun work, and in the end, you may find you're able to add something you've always loved to your wardrobe. 

Happy Dressing!